Category Archives: Blog

Stop Defending Yourself

I recently had a conversation with a client about her need to defend herself and her choices to her (grown) children.  Without sharing too many details, suffice it to say, as she enters into her retirement years, she is making some new choices on who … More …

Give Yourself Permission

I’ve been working with a client recently who’s had a tough few months. Last week she came to Ashlyn Cottage for a private retreat and had an interesting breakthrough. Perhaps some of you will be able to relate to this.  She’s been in business for … More …

Wherever You Go, There You Are

Did you ever think about the fact that the one common denominator in all your life experiences is you?  I say this because I used to think that if I moved to enough new houses or made enough external changes in my life, then things … More …

Are You Saving Face?

I recently had a conversation with a friend about how we both wasted so much time in our lives, making decisions to “save face.” The dictionary definition of this is to avoid humiliation or retain respect. In our situations, these decisions were both related to … More …

Aunt-Advice: Sort of Like Mom’s but Different

My niece recently turned 18. If you know me or have followed me for a while, you know how much this little, now grown, human means to me. She is like the daughter I never had, but as someone who is childfree by choice, it … More …

Tell Me Something Good

I’ve been observing groups of people quite a bit this past month; mostly while doing workshops with clients and attending a weeklong residency for my Ph.D. program.  Spending time with people in these settings has reminded me of how much people like to complain. For … More …

Are You Stuck in Your Story?

We live most of our lives based on the stories we have running through our head each moment.  The fact is that our experiences are based on our beliefs and expectations; that is what we filter our life through. I coach clients every day who … More …

Embracing Who You Are

I am about to celebrate my forty-ninth birthday. FORTY-NINE. I shake my head at that number because as much of a blessing as it is (I know many will never live to see age 49), it seems like it came quickly. I swear my mom … More …

One Breath at A Time

I recently watched one of my dearest friends do the unimaginable. She buried her 2-year old son after he spent half of his life fighting cancer.  Make no mistake, he was as strong as they come and fought harder than most people could have; yet, … More …

Honoring Your Need for Boundaries

Boundaries – those things we need to set and honor when we realize someone continually encroaches on our space, violates us, drains us, or things have gotten to a place where some type of limit must be set to maintain a healthy relationship. I’ll be … More …