I’ve been working with a client recently who’s had a tough few months. Last week she came to Ashlyn Cottage for a private retreat and had an interesting breakthrough. Perhaps some of you will be able to relate to this. She’s been in business for herself for the past 18 months and has not taken any time off. She hasn’t taken a vacation, and other than breaks on the weekends, she’s devoted most of her time to growing her (now quite successful) business.
I asked her one question while we were together last week which opened her eyes to what was creating her struggle. The question was: “Who’s going to give you permission to take a vacation?” She was silent. Then said, “Me?” Yes, that was the right answer! No one was going to give her permission to take a week off except HER. When she worked in her corporate job, she had to get approval for her vacation, so, her boss had to give her permission. But now, she’s her own boss, and she needed to give herself permission to take a break. This sparked an additional conversation and a list we created of all the things she needed to give herself permission to do now that she was her own boss.
I’m sharing this list (with her permission) because it applies to anyone and everyone. It doesn’t matter if you work for yourself or someone else, if you’re married or single, or if you are a parent or not. These are things we all need to give ourselves permission to do, regardless of what anyone else thinks about it:
- Take a vacation.
- Get more sleep.
- Say no to things that we don’t want to do.
- Say yes to the things that light up our mind, body, and soul.
- Take a nap in the middle of the day.
- Go off the grid for as much time as you need.
- Disconnect – turn OFF your devices regularly, for extended periods of time.
- Watch mindless TV shows.
- Eat dessert.
- Love yourself, flaws and all.
- Put yourself and your well-being first on your list of things to-do.
Would you add anything to this list?
If so, please share in the comments so we can all benefit from your wisdom. And, so we can all continue to remember that our well-being is no one else’s responsibility but our own. NO one is going to give you permission to do what you need to do to be your best self.
So, go ahead. Give yourself permission to do all of the things listed above and then some. I guarantee you’ll thank yourself for it!